You Betta Werk: Advice Overload!

Hey boos! Mani here, just an advice post about how too much advice can set you back. Ironic, right?

Ok, well of all the advice you've received thus far, this bit of advice is probably the realest advice you'll ever get.

I like to think of myself as a knowledge seeker. I feel like you can learn from anything and anyone if you allow yourself to. While my thirst for learning can be a great thing, it can become a bit of a hindrance. As an ambitious person I've made it a habit to ask for advice from those who have succeeded in their desired fields and I've received so much great advice. Then you have those who volunteer advice to you; alot of times I get taken a'back and I'm like, "Who asked you bro?" but other times I end up having an "aha moment" or so I think-

Great advice can truly be a game changer. Sometimes it takes just one conversation to guide you or open your eyes to a more effective way of chasing your goals; but here's the thing, you only have one life and that life is yours, and that journey is yours and your instincts are yours for a reason...I'm saying this to say, "Girl, you can't put to use advice from a million people in one lifetime!" Some advice you just have to let go. Too much advice can get you distracted or lead you off of the path you'd originally plotted because, let's be honest, it's scary traveling the paths less traveled. So when you hear stories of the methods successful peers have used to get to where they want to be, it's tempting to fall in that trap, it's now easier to take this particular route because you see it's possible to be successful by doing things this person's way.

Good advice is like good food; apply it in moderation, otherwise you'll end up with nothing but dead weight. Trust your instincts and don't second guess yourself. Sometimes we psych ourselves out into thinking we need advice, when the game plan we came with on our own was fye to begin with. It's ok to keep your moves and goals to yourself sometimes because when you tell people, it gives them the opportunity to either put their doubts in your mind and deter you, or tell you how they would go about achieving them and distract you-or worse, take your idea.

I've come across a lot of people who are in places and positions I aspire to be; some of them never planned on getting the opportunities they did, while others took nontraditional paths to accomplish what they've accomplished. I've had people tell me to teach for two years, pay off my loans and invest in my start-up; I've had people tell me to be a waitress at a strip club, stack my coins and dip when I have enough to invest in myself (if my parents didn't kill me); I've had people tell me to try my luck as a personal assistant, etc. Yes, all of these seg-ways lead to great success for the people that suggested these options to me; but had I chosen either one of these routes, who knows if it would have been just as successful for me? I found myself getting over whelmed because I would try to put every piece of advice I got to use and honestly, it was more of a distraction than help and I realized I was putting too much energy into a journey that wasn't necessarily my own.

Deep down, I think I'd lost faith in my own plan and once I realized that, I had to snap out of it. Advice overload is real but you have to know what advice is worth investing your time into. Before allocating your time to apply someone else's advice, it doesn't hurt to say, "Yeah this is great advice. But is this the best option for me? Would it be more productive for me to allocate my time else where?" What works for someone else, may not work for you and who knows, you may already know the key to your success; just give it a shot boo!

I really hope this post was of some help to you. Go slay the rest of your weak and have faith in yourself, you got this boo!

-XoXo

Mani

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